Hey there, fellow mom! 

Today, I want to chat about something that has the power to transform our relationships – active listening. Now, I know what you might be thinking: “Listening? I already do that all day long, especially when my kids start telling me about their day in excruciating detail!” But stick with me, because there’s a twist to this tale.

The Art of Listening to Connect

When I started listening to others with genuine curiosity and a desire to understand, instead of just waiting for my turn to speak, my conversations and relationships began to change for the better. It’s like a light switched on, illuminating a path to deeper connection and understanding. 
Let’s be honest, as moms with migraines and chronic illnesses, we have enough on our plates without adding superficial relationships to the mix. We crave real, meaningful connections that uplift and support us. And guess what? Active listening can be a game-changer.

Biblical Wisdom on Listening

The Bible offers some sage advice on this topic. James 1:19 says, “Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry.” Sounds simple enough, right? But in practice, it takes a bit of effort and a lot of patience.

Practical Tips for Active Listening

  1. Be Present: Put down your phone (unless you're reading this blog on it!) and give your full attention to the person speaking. 
  2. Ask Questions: Show that you’re interested by asking open-ended questions. This isn’t an interrogation—think of it as exploring a new story.
  3. Resist the Urge to Interrupt: We all have that inner voice saying, “I’ve got something to add!” But hold off. Let the person finish their thought before you chime in.
  4. Empathize: Try to put yourself in the speaker’s shoes. Feel their joy, pain, or confusion along with them.

A Personal Revelation

For me, this shift wasn’t easy. I used to listen just enough to figure out what I wanted to say next. But once I began listening to truly understand, rather than to respond, my relationships blossomed. Conversations became more engaging, and I felt more connected to those around me.

In our busy lives, deep and meaningful connections can sometimes feel out of reach. But by practicing active listening, we can build stronger, more supportive relationships. So, next time you’re chatting with a friend or family member, try to listen with curiosity and a genuine desire to understand. You might just be surprised by the transformation!

Remember, fellow moms, you’re not alone on this journey. Let’s lift each other up with the power of active listening. 
Stay encouraged and keep the faith!

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By the way, if you're looking for a supportive community to continue growing and practicing active listening, we invite you to join our "Debilitate to Liberated - Stopping the Pattern of Pain" Facebook group. It's a safe space where we share experiences, offer advice, and support one another in breaking free from the cycle of pain. We can't wait to connect with you and walk together on this journey of transformation. See you there!


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